I get super frustrated sometimes with my home lab stuff. Just gotta take a break, come back to it later. We all make mistakes that cost hardware, we learn and improve.
In the work area, I have had burnout and loss of spark, generally it required not leaving tech/IT but pivoting to something a little different but still in tech/IT.
Time to take up calligraphy/pens, which will be exactly as frugal or outrageously expensive as you make it.
LOL looks like that Spongebob has absorbed too much liquid…
I may have to watch that show someday…
@HaaStyleCat I think that most of us have been where you are and have had the exact same thoughts (not just tech but anything in life really) so I feel you on this. I know that what really helps me is taking a walk outside and “disconnecting” for a bit. We all get a little wrapped up in our own webs, getting yourself into a space that isn’t man-made does a lot for the soul. If you can take the time maybe spend a few days in a nearby national park. Lots of studies done on the positive effects of spending time outside surrounded by nature. Otherwise, embrace the suck and sniffle check yourself, it’s just stupid sand that pretends to think 
thanks again all
I’m gonna touch base here @HaaStyleCat
Galileo had very forward thinking ideas and was persecuted for them
Thomas Edison took 1000+ tries to get the lightbulb right
Nikola Tesla took 25 years to master AC generation
John S Stone wasn’t alive to see what he trully created (radio)
Einstein was extremely poor at math and therefore he was more theoretical than he was proving it with math (see pointcare and Lagrange’s work)
Jensen Huang was not known for being the best engineer but he used his skills fro. SGI and his incredibly business and marketing chops to create NVIDIA…
However all of these people despite their set backs and incapabilities left a mark on what they cared about.
If you care about tech persevere. Stick around
If you care to know my favorite idol… well lol… 
its uhm Hedi Lamarr who created Frequency Hopping spread spectrum. She was an RF engineer and an actress and she had a brilliant understanding of Local Oscillators… but she was told to go back to acting despite being a self taught brilliant engineer.
Eventually when she created something the army could not ignore (first tested on torpedos)… she dubbed herself the tag line "a girl can be smart and glamorous " and became one heck of a woman. 6 husbands… three children. I approve 
Bias is there because im an RF engineer and shes a woman RF engineer but whats not to like xD
So I suggest not allowing set backs to permanently set you back 
Or do what I do and break shit until you roll the number counter over nad get something fucking amazing
No, but I’m honestly considering selling my desktop since prices are so high 
I can get by with my gaming laptop until prices stabilize again and then build something better for less.
The things that are always wearing on me are Windows vs. Linux and PC vs. Console
It’s like…
It’s like I’m in a constant loop that could be solved by Microsoft not sucking any more, but I don’t think that’ll happen.
Honestly I kinda miss the days when I lived in the barracks and all I had was my gaming laptop because it’s all I had room for and I hadn’t found out about Richard Stallman yet.
Well plot thickens… wife found out how much I charged on my credit cards…7k half of it the card and other pc parts…
I lied about it… so now she is at her folks saying she doesn’t want a divorce yet…but that she would be fine and take everything and I would have nothing.
Hell, I make more than her…she thinks I’m using her for her money… last year we had to refinance the house because she spent 14k on her credit cards and I wasn’t upset…
Now she says I have to sell my guns, tools (I have a huge snap-on tool box and cart) from when I was a mechanic, pcs of course…
So she left me here at the house to cool off…but I’m tempted to just leave…I’m angry she thinks I don’t do anything for her (I wait on her hand and foot, make all her meals do everything at home. Massages every night, pack her lunch etc etc…does that mean nothing?
I know I was wrong to hide it, but I like to get things too… she got a 28k ring just two months ago!!!
I’m sad, upset, angry…I’m a mess basically or F.I.N.E. fed up, insecure, neurotic and emotional…lol
I will probably do a open ended sale if I can get approval from admins… I have too much and need to make as much back as I can as fast as I can. That would mean two complete systems, a server, networking stuff, switches, or break them down into components.
Just follow the BST rules and you’ll be good.
We don’t require concrete prices, but I do strongly recommend putting prices in anyways to minimize any tire kickers and low ballers. I generally use Ebay to figure out prices.
Ok will do
Disclaimer: I am not a relationship advisor.
But it sounds like it may be time to have a very calm and concise conversation about who does what, who spends what, etc. It sucks to have to quantify things like that because it makes it feel like you’re keeping score. But sometimes people lose perspective too, and need to see objectively that you are contributing too and they spend money too. I know from watching my parents that it’s easy to get trapped in this idea that going to work is the only thing that counts as contributing to the relationship.
And of course, to restore hope that would also involve discussing solutions to problems on both sides of the aisle. And to restore faith, that would involve actually exercising those solutions.
I dunno though. I’m not even married. And I know that some people would advise against it very quickly because it might upset someone, but IMO people shouldn’t avoid honesty/realism just because other people might throw a fit.
While I obviously don’t have the whole context, do not allow her to start dictating to you what you are allowed to have or have to sell. It will not fix anything, it won’t make her magically content like nothing happened, and it absolutely won’t make you happy. A straight and firm “no” is the only correct answer.
The other correct answer is it’s time to get help from a Marriage Counselor AND Financial Coach. You two appear to have had a breakdown of trust, and are engaging in fear based behaviors/reactions instead of assuming the best of each other. A marriage counselor can help you learn how to reestablish that trust as well as recognize the things that destroy it. A financial coach is a must for any marriage, aLilBabyOtter is spot on, it’s critical that both parties establish and follow ground rules from the beginning. Financial disagreements that spiral out of control are a huge killer of marriages.
Hate to see you go through this bro. Watched this sort of thing happen over and over growing up. If things get really heated, consider putting your most important stuff in a storage unit for a while.
I wanted to point out that taking care of their veterans is the least a country has to do. You sacrificed your health and outlook at a regular 9 to 5 life for your country and you owe them nothing. You should focus on whatever makes your and the life of your loved ones a fulfilled life.
On a different note, I have been building computers for over 15 years and I still sometimes damage or destroy hardware. It is the price of tinkering, and while it is frustrating, it is about what you learn from your mistakes.
If you ever need to vent, send me a message and we can hangout on Discord.
Never give up.
Give up tech, or give up gaming?
High end GPUs and other hardware aren’t required to learn tech. Anything you owned last year is still useful to learn how to code, build things, etc.
If you’re looking for hardware to play with that is actually available, try a Raspberry Pi or FPGA dev kit.
dude thats the shittiest advice you can give someone please dude your not married I dont mean to say this so directly but until you are dont give advice on things like this in the manner to which you just suggested towards him. Marriage isnt just a relationship which everyone seems to want to belittle it to.
Like seriously Im just going to be direct and honest to you rn. Shut up, like actually shut up this isnt the place to suggest to someone to say fuck it and make such a huge rash decision. its more than just him involved in this conflict
Additionally wtf:
While in your eyes she could be one. This is someone you do not know. This is his wife to whom he clearly cares about. You have no place and no right to be calling someones significant other this. I tolerate just about most things but this is firmly riding on the line and I think you should respectfully apologize for what is uncalled for behavior. You could have worded this like “Potentially consider the divorce option” and then in no way would you have been so disrespectful
So my advice in this is have a calm conversation. Im not married but ive been in tense situations before and communication can go a super long way. I would open up by asking her what she needs and what boundaries she wants set. This USUALLY puts the cards in your favor. It also sounds like a good conversation about rolls and how money is spent etc is something thats well I guess over due. Some couples have split finances so this isnt an issue. Others have joint bank accounts so trust can be built through transparency. This is very individual.
Well this sounds like boundaries need to be discussed and set very clearly. Im no expert in marriage but the principle reason any of my relationships failed came from not setting those or blurring the lines…
That said it sounds like she is well taken care of and could use a couple chips off her pedastal. I would say that spending 14K without any consultation particularly in marriage is something I would not dare doing. Particularly if it had to go on a credit card. Particularly if the financial situation was less than perfectly exemplary.
I would say the issue is more about trust and boundaries than it is anything to do with your meals and massages and other things you do for one another.
Do you get my feeling here
Take a break for a while Haas. Focus on your marriage. Little victories. Finish one thing at a time the forum will be around when you return
You can peel my Am486DX2-66 from my cold dead hands before I give up tech. 
This isn’t mine or other people’s first rodeo on the shortage train.
Kek
