In the USSA, sure, in Europe, I think it’s less likely they just confiscate whatever.
As for backups, intermit.tech did a good guide on (minio) S3 + restic. Restic encrypts data client-side and S3 is a better option than (S)FTP when it comes to people accessing your hardware, as it’s solely limited to the object storage (you could chroot sftp, but eh).
That way, even if someone’s hardware gets seized, your data is still safe. I’d personally recommend that each of you buys their own SBC and preferred size HDDs and give it to each other.
If hypothetically one of you is a criminal master mind and gets raided, it would be your device that gets seized, with your encrypted data. That means your backup server is completely lost. Their backup server is still safe. You might get knock for an investigation with a warrant, but if you don’t live in burgerland, I kinda doubt you’ll have to worry about all your devices getting seized.
If colocation is an option, you can all put some money down for a 1U very low-power server and put it in a data center and it might be more reasonable than each of you having devices in each other’s house. It is still a risk, but much lower than having someone connect straight to you.
But this setup was planned as so, because you all would have fast internet at home. Talk to your ISP, some ISPs offer colocation services. If all of you share the same large ISP, it’ll probably be better than going to each other’s home internet. If you don’t share ISPs, going to each other’s internet would not be ideal anyway, so colocating makes even more sense.
Besides the hardware cost, colocation costs around 250 euros (last I checked was 3 years ago I think, prices might’ve gone up). That’d make 4 people pay about 65 euros a month. With 22TB drives, you can get a stripped mirror with 44TB usable capacity, which can take you a long way (I mean, 11TB of data for each individual’s most important data?). In minio I think you get the option to allocate only a certain amount to each bucket.
If you split it 6 way, it goes to about 42 / month for about 7TB ea.
Because you have IPv6 access, I’d avoid tailscale altogether. You have a world addressable IP address. Use that if your networks all have ipv6 enabled. Maybe slap a DynDNS like duckdns or no-ip, no matter which option (home hosting or colocating) you pick.