It booted to this screen after about 5 minutes at Qcode ‘15’(guessing calibration of memory)
Then entered bios, save and reset, code ‘0d’
Removed two sticks, set the frequency to 3200 added the other two, reset the CMOS and it worked(detecting 128Gb ram, so as proof of concept I shut it down and restarted.
It seems that clearing the CMOS and resetting the Bios(which the only thing changed was specifically the frequency) has it working. So having the frequency to auto, vs a specific setting. Hopefully it stays this way.