I can’t speak for others, but my inner dialogue does not work that way exactly.
When I’m talking, I’m just talking, no inner dialogue.
when listening, i am mostly listening, to the other person, again, pretty much no inner dialogue.
But, when thinking, it might be inner dialogue (as in, thinking through both sides) or could just be thinking.
I guess it’s hard to say precisely when it’s just thinking, and when it’s a dialogue.
I guess, when trying to reason?
Like, when driving, and one sees another person do something bad, one might just think “what an idiot” which to me, is not really a monologue, nor dialogue.
But, when reasoning the pro’s and cons of having a third slice of cheesecake, I might go back and forth in my head, like:
‘do I want more’
“yes”
‘have I already had enough’
“yes, but still gonna”
‘I should really cut back’
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Or, like deciding on a computer case,
“not enough 5 1/4 bays”
‘but looks super cool’
“plastic window instead of glass”
‘still looks really cool’
“yeah, is cool…”
Or in queue in a bar
“beer of shorts”
‘only gonna be out for 3 hours, prolly short’
“but, it is super hot out, and we gonna be in the sun”
‘beer is super compelling’
“beer wins…”
I don’t always have a back and forth, I would say less than one time a day, more than 2 times a week?
So not constantly.
And, the two sides, are both me, not external voices / other people / schizophrenia.
I have not (yet) wondered if any particular pair of jeans would or would not make my ass look fat, which would just be a thought, but if I considered pro’s/cons, then I would count that as a dialogue.
I think.
Anyone else dissagree / have a better way of putting it?
Unless I am just being a weird freak.
(thanks for reading my tedx talk. no wonder everyone hates the x version, it’s a pale comparison)