So while discussing certain things in another blog and in private chat with someone I got to looking at a website and it made me think about certain things I was doing with my life. They were things I needed to stop that I hadn't thought of yet that would improve my life in regards to having healthy mature relationships with women and they are:
Watching PRON
Masturbating
Now I also was already working on giving up betting on horses for life and so far so good and with the mindset I have I can't see a situation where I would bet them ever again.
Since the challenge started and some time before it I have stopped:
Watching PRON (I am not sure of the exact but it has been quite some time since I did that.)
Masturbating (I am not sure of the exact date but it has been quite awhile for sure now.)
Gambling on horses completely (at least 6 race dates into this)
Now about temptations in regards to PRON and masturbating to it I had one day recently where I felt the urge but I have this way of clearing my mind and numbing myself and well it worked to get rid of the short urge I had.
Finally I have to say that no I haven't forgotten about subwaygirl and I haven't forgot about trying to cut down on buying and eating certain foods as I was going poor buying them but those things will not be discussed in this blog.
PhySex ..typed that and felt something on the brain but again no urge to go fap at something that is not real. If I ever find a woman again I want a healthy, loving relationship with PRON and fapping to it not being a part of it. It means something is missing if I do that. I am very thankful to the TS MEMBER (PUN!) that showed me the light.
Wait....are you saying porn and masturbation are bad? Unless you have been reading Catholic Daily, I'm pretty sure there have been plenty of studies done and has been known for a long time masturbation is healthy and normal (everyone does it) and porn isn't any more damaging than the movies or games you play.
EMBRACE THE WANK! #EmbraceTheWank
Explore your kinks! Go find what you like. Got that Asian persuasion? (I know I do) You got squirters and squealers a like. Got a thing for a big thang? You know, "junk trunk". Maybe you like your women round in other areas. Man, there is no judgement. In fact, I think prudishness of society is so very limiting. So many people are embaressed of what they watch or feel ashamed. Well I say put your foot down and actively post (maybe not direct links) to what gets your rocks off! I stand now, loud and proud that Saki Ootsuka is one of my all time favorite porn stars. I will stand atop a tower and shout to the people below "Bukake is weird, but seeing a women glazed like a donut is fucking sexy!" I will sail across the ocean to tell people "What is the deal with hentai? I can't tell how old this girl is, but she's getting fucked by a tentacle, or maybe a subway groper, or perhaps a tentacle subway groper and all I know is that I am rock solid right now." Stand tall, my friend! Stand proud! Embrace your kink! Embrace your wank!
@MrFlyte I am not a Catholic. I am not religious. I just can see how pron can be damaging to a relationship and have experienced it. It can give you unreasonable expectations of your partner in terms of looks and so on. Also many can attest on the site I was on that once they quit masturbating it improved their sex life and other things too.
I expected people to chime in with different views but this isn't the usual blog. It is a "Break a Leg" challenge and I have decided what I want and what is best for people around me and so hopefully the person who I mentioned in my first post will take notice of this and will chime in too. I don't need support really though on these goals as my mind is pretty much 100% made up on sticking to all this for a lifetime. Yes there may be moments where I want to say FUCK it (Yes a pun!) and masturbate to PRON until I go blind or masturbate to some sort of image in my mind but I can't do that because it takes me away from reality and trying to get that sort of please from real women. Anyway I just thought of PORNHUB and yeah it gave me that sensation in the brain but it is only temporary and pointless. Now yes people have a right to do what they want to do and so go do it within the confines of the law or reasonable laws. To each his or her own.
Letting porn dictate how you see real sex or relationships is like basing your opinion on the US police by watching Die Hard. They are both ridiculous fantasies. Sure they look good on the screen but in real life both situations would be pretty crap. Fantasy is great, not just in sex but also for everything else. We all play games where we kill lots of people. I personally like stratery games. That doesn't mean I want to order the deaths of millions in real life, and Porn/sex is the same. If you really don't want anything to do with porn then good luck and I hope it works out for you, just don't stop because you think it will hurt you either emotionally or physically.
I think and I could be wrong. But many guys who decided to stop or massively cut down their masturbation do so in order to get their expectations in line with reality. Its not that they don't realize pron is fake, but they might be numb to normal and real life interactions with sex and therefor are bored?
I semi struggled with this for a little bit a few years back, where I wouldn't get as horny when being with my ex as it wasn't as "sexy" as the erotica I read often was. So I cut back. And it helped me a lot.
I agree with Cosaga given my real life experience. Guy was just so used to getting himself off and using porn that when he tried with a real life girl he just couldn't get off and sometimes it was difficult to maintain an erection. Though this is a topic that is very much about the individual and what does or doesn't work for them. Good luck OP!
The biggest thing I found with the cut down of masturbation was how my mood changed. I tried a month without it and towards the end of that month I was short tempered, on edge and distracted. I've never smoked, or been addicted to anything, but I couldn't believe the hold it had over me. This was all several years ago, and I've learnt to have more control of how my mind and body work together, but that was an eye opener for me.
Yeah it really is. And people do it for different reasons also. My friend did it for over 100 days and he mentioned he gained a lot of insight from the subreddit 'NoFap'. Until yesterday I didn't know this was a thing, but he said it was massively helpful.
Still on the right track with all this and honestly I know for a fact that when I see a woman I am attracted to I am feeling more of a chemical reaction than before when I watched porn and got off. I am looking at real people and thinking about dealing with real people. That is healthier than what I was doing before. I don't need fantasy. I need reality. I have struggled in many ways to be part of the real world and watching porn is just one thing that helped me hide from relationship problems and going out there also and trying again to find a special woman.
I think that it should be kept open til the end of the "Break a Leg" challenge is done as just because one relapses or what some would say a person did that was normal doesn't mean they can't put that aside and gain control of things once again and not do what they didn't want to do. Since that day I have not went back to the site. I still also believe it is not healthy to watch that sort of material and so the fight is still on and I have to continue it past the "Break a Leg" challenge. Also others have chimed in on the subject material and so maybe more will and I appreciate their insight.