Monitor help PLZ!

I have been trying to get my computer monitor to work but when i boot it up it says no signal form vga or dvi. I cant figure out how to connect the wires becuase both sides of the vga cords are the same but the one on my graphics card is longer. My graphics card is a 66O

could you please rephrase that so its not so confusing, and from what I gathered vga and dvi out form the card will not work? have you tried hdmi. and if you are using a telivision for a monitor have you made sure you are on the correct input?